It’s absolutely fine for people to ask ‘off-topic’ questions, we don’t mind.
Well, we don’t know you, your boyfriend, or the situation very well so we can’t make a brilliant judgement as to what you should do.
I think it’s brilliant that you’re getting out of the relationship. You should definitely not fear the person you are with, especially when you’re probably with him in an intimate respect.
But anyway, our advice is to make it public.
Make sure that when you end it you are in a public place, not in a box room with nobody else, not in a house, make it public, in a busy area. That way, if he does lash out you have people who can help you and witnesses and such. If anything happens, you do not want to be on your own with no help and also no proof of what he’s done.
And perhaps have a friend (preferably a man (I don’t mean anything sexist about it, but statistically men are bigger and also other men are more intimidated by men than women)) So get someone big and perhaps strong too, and just ask them to stand watch, not necessarily be in your conversation, but just a short stretch away so they can keep you safe.
Just ensure that you are safe. It doesn’t matter that it’s insensitive to break up with someone publicly, your safety comes first.
Good luck and please keep us informed so we know you’re alright! -JW
We’re fine, thank you!
Hamish is doing really well at school, particularly in PE, they’re doing rugby at the moment and he’s loving it!
Amelia is still as adorable and beautiful as ever, and growing more every day! I still can’t believe she’s nearly three months old!
Sherlock and I are a little tired but happy. We still haven’t taken any cases except ones we can work from home to complete. Amelia’s keeping us up a lot at night with feeding and changing and generally crying. Hamish luckily sleeps through as he’s moved back up to his old room to sleep and doesn’t hear her.
But it’s all good, thank you for asking! -JW
Amelia has already started smiling, and she is also interested in looking around and interacting with us. She’s very cute and developing well! -SH
I like to play games with Amelia! I like to make silly faces at her and I also do performances of scenes from programmed like Doctor Who or Pirates of the Caribbean, she likes those, she’ll be sat in daddy or papa’s arms, or maybe in her bouncy chair, and I’ll be an actor for her and she smiles and gurgles lots when I do that.
She doesn’t like peek-a-boo, she doesn’t have an interest if I do that. -HWH
She first smiled at all of us! It was a really lucky and happy moment! She was sat in her bouncy chair on the floor of the living room and Hamish, Sherlock and I were all sat in front of her reading ‘where the wild things are’, each having a voice for the character, and when Hamish growled and Sherlock and I always giggle at his growling in the book because Hamish doesn’t sound very scary, well Amelia gave a particularly loud gurgle and we looked over to her and she stared right back and then her expression just went into pure delight, she had this wonderful smile and her eyes were bright and she looked so happy and we all ignored the book and started cooing over her and trying to get her to smile again! It was brilliant and she’s smiled quite frequently since! -JW
You mean… is there a difference between the relationship of parent and child/siblings?
Well of course!
Hamish is very good with Amelia, he loves her a lot and likes having cuddles with her and things, but unlike us parents he will not come within two metres of her if we’re changing her nappy. -JW
John once chased him up to his room with a wet nappy, it was hilarious. Hamish had been nagging us about going out and we’d had to delay leaving the house to change Amelia’s nappy, and he got fussy so once John had cleaned Amelia up and passed her to me he held the nappy out to Hamish and he ran all the way upstairs, I could hear Hay laughing and screaming all the way and from what I could hear John didn’t put the nappy on him, but he did tickle him instead! -SH
Hamish is hilarious when it comes to nappies :) -JW
They smell! -HWH
He also got very irritated with Amelia the first time she was sick on him, something Sherlock and I don’t do. Babies throw up on you, wee on you, all that stuff! It certainly isn’t pleasant but you have to deal with it. -JW
But being sick on people is disgusting! -HWH
It’s normal, Hamish, she’s two months old. And anyway, only about six months ago I recall you being sick all over me when you had that bug. Did I complain then? And trust me, your sick was much more smelly than Amelia’s is now! -JW
Fine, I get it, you’re parents and we’re your kids so it’s fine and you just deal with it, but it’s still yucky. -HWH
Anyway, so yes, there are many differences between parents and children relationships and sibling relationships. -SH
Hamish’s face literally just lit up! He loves Doctor Who! If we found a TARDIS near our house we wouldn’t be able to keep him away from it! -JW
We’ve got an empty ask box now! So if you’ve sent in a message at any point and it hasn’t been answered then send it again and I’d presume tumblr ate it. Thank you to all of you for your enthusiasm and messages! Sorry for the delay in replying.
So yes, empty ask box, if you have any questions don’t hesitate to send them in! -JW
She’s doing very well, she’s a happy and healthy little 2 month old, eating well and a strong little-miss too! And yes, she’s growing just fine too!
Well, interesting things happen quite a lot. I mean, she’s growing all the time and with that comes new things that she can do. She’s just doing really well and we’re all so happy to have her here and to have a family of four now. -SH
I’d say the funniest thing was when Amelia threw up on Mycroft. I’d just finished feeding her and Mycroft asked to hold her, I gave her to him and she immediately threw up all over a brand new, and very expensive, suit. Hamish laughed till he cried at the expression on Mycroft’s face and John got a picture of it! He was going to take a picture of Mycroft with Amelia and we’re all very glad he had a camera at hand at that moment! -SH
I like ‘Home’ by Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeroes! That’s a fun song to sing with! -HWH
Hamish’s song-love isn’t as broad as John’s and I’d, he’s only eight. But he’s very enthusiastic already about music, which is good! -SH
Amelia likes row-row-row your boat at the moment! One night all three of us stood in front of her crib and did row-row-row your boat, all the actions and things, it was a very funny evening! -JW
Just them as people, they’re both wonderful little beings.
Hamish is a very loving and cheerful boy! Very clever too. He can be demanding but we wouldn’t have him any other way, he’s our perfect little boy.
And Amelia is so cute! She’s already such a little character, throwing up on Mycroft and being all cuddly and such a cutie-pie!
We love them both so much, there are so many things about them that could be favourite characteristics! -JW
I agree with John.
Well, we’re aware that in the States Halloween is a BIG thing, and Britain kind of decided to adopt the celebration from the USA.
Yes, children go trick or treating, usually children under about 12 go out to neighbours with their costumes on. Usually it’s known that if a house doesn’t have decorations then you’re not meant to knock for sweets. But most people put a pumpkin out. Nobody really does any tricks though. Hamish did one year, he was very confused why people said ‘trick or treat?’ and there was never a trick, so he took a plastic bag of the inside of the pumpkin we carved and he’d ask a neighbour if they wanted a trick and if they agreed he’d tell them to put their hand in the bag without looking and they’d put their hands in pumpkin seeds and gloop. It was quite funny actually :)
And there aren’t many paries, some people hold them, usually teenagers because they’re a bit old to trick or treat but they still want to have fun. Or maybe if someone has a birthday around halloween then they’ll do a themed birthday party. But overall it isn’t a massive PARTY thing here.
Hamish usually goes dressed as a vampire, that’s his favourite outfit, and he’s already got his costume ready this year! We all went to Tesco, Hamish bought a new vampire costume and some talcum powder to make his face as pale as possible, and he usually borrows Mrs Hudson’s lipstick for blood. And Hamish chose Amelia’s costume, she’s going to be a pumpkin.
These are their outfits:
Hamish doesn’t like the mask so we didn’t buy that part. But he tried the outfit on and he looks very cute in it :)
Amelia is going to look adorable as a pumpkin! We actually call her pumpkin sometimes, and Hamish too!
On Hamish’s first few Halloweens he dressed up as a pirate too, very cute that was. -JW
Our children will look absolutely adorable this Halloween! I’m quite excited for the Halloweens to come where they can go to the door together, but for now it’s just Hamish and we go with him but don’t get sweets. But Hamish always gives us a few packets. -SH
I want to be a policeman or a fireman or a doctor, I don’t really know yet… but something where I don’t have to sit around all day, that would be boring for me. -HWH